Benefits of Abstinence
“Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice” - Unknown
Marriage is God’s perfect outlet for our sexual desires. To look at the world you would not be able to tell. Our whole culture screams sex, sex, and more sex and there is hardly a dissenting voice. Many of the same people who preach abstinence are the same people who own the media outlets that promote this casual sexual atmosphere. They are hypocrites and God will judge them. It is unfortunate but for the sake of material riches you the youth of our nation have become expendable. You are bought and sold daily. On the one hand it appears that you have value, but underneath you are only a profit margin. The enemy makes it look like your opinions are important, but only in how he can corrupt you. The whole world is becoming a commercial, a slogan. The world is not some office on “Madison Avenue”. Choose purity and choose life. Do not believe the lies of this world, that it doesn't matter that you remain pure. You will feel better about yourselves and the world around you. Everywhere you turn it is about sex, the world would like for you to believe that it is no big deal. It is not important if you stay pure, it is some old-fashioned thinking. Talk to your parents and grandparents the world told them the same thing years ago. But it is important, your future will be determined by your choices. You only have one chance to be with the one you love in a loving marriage with purity of body, heart, and spirit. It is no wonder so many of our marriages do not last we come into them defiled. Do not waste it away without thinking.
Many in our society have proclaimed abstinence the providence of fools. They have decided that abstinence does not work so why bother teaching it. These are the same people who every time the teenage birthrate increases they say this is evidence of their position. To these people I would just like to say that in the entire recorded history of man abstinence has not worked only once. Safe sex on the other hand has a long record of failure. It is not that abstinence doesn't work, it is that in our society abstinence doesn't sell. Our culture uses sex to sell everything from hamburgers to shaving cream. It is in the interest of those who profit from the misfortune of others to convince us that abstinence doesn't work, so we have to have safe sex. Their aim is to convince us of the foolishness of teaching our children to be celibate. They decorate their arguments with the word "safe" to make it more palatable, but the goal is to get us to accept that sex is inevitable. Once we accept that argument we are doomed because there is no such thing as safe sex. All sex comes with a price to be paid. We are not some beasts in the field who perform sex acts devoid of feelings. When you have sex with someone there is an exchange that takes place, an exchange of the spirit, the emotions, and the body.
Here are some of the benefits of abstinence:
1. More self respect and more respect for each other.
2. Security that you're not being pursued for sexual reasons.
3. Greater chance of faithfulness in marriage, and trust in your partner's ability to control him/herself with other people.
4. Chance to develop more depth in relationships.
5. Less worries regarding pregnancy, birth control, STD's, emotional betrayal, etc.
6. Peace of mind and joy in the knowledge that you are obedient to God in this area of your life
7. Better sex when you are married. Although premarital abstinence doesn't guarantee a great sex life, it certainly can start things off without baggage from past relationships. People who have had sex with multiple partners have numbed themselves to the connection it gives to the partner. This is relative based on the number of partners and the emotional bond of the relationship at the time. Many people need to work on reconnecting their sex life to their emotions once they are in a marriage relationship because it has been damaged by past promiscuity.
8. Stronger marriage. Statistically it has been proven that marriages between people who have practiced abstinence have a lower divorce rate. Sex is not the foundation of the marriage although it is a very essential part of the bond between husband and wife. Avoid choosing your mate based on their sexual performance over other characteristics such as shared values, goals and companionship.
9. Freedom from memories of past sexual partners. All of the forgiveness in God's kingdom doesn't erase memories. Suppose you are sexually active, and do find the love of your life, and they are your soul mate, but they are not the best sex you've ever had. If you had nothing to compare them to, they would be the best sex you've ever had because they would be the ONLY sex you've ever had. Many people can work on sexual techniques and improve their sex life over years of marriage. Premarital abstinence will also spare your spouse of insecurities based on wondering if you are really satisfied with them sexually. These insecurities over time can erode a marriage. Also, a partner who finds him/herself frequently remembering past partners who may have been better in bed can cause guilt or conflicting emotions which will erode a marriage.
10. Realize there is a 98 percent chance you will never marry the person you date in high school, so it is always better to keep yourself pure for the right person, that is your future wife or husband.
11. You don't have to put yourself under someone else's mercy not to reject you. It's still a fact, that the more "experienced" guys and girls are generally less desirable and less respected as dating or marriage partners.
12. Premarital sex often fools a person into marrying someone who really isn't right for them.